Why did I Create the Hashtag NotMySoulmate?
Toxic people will love bomb & idealize their victim upon meeting. Narcissists & Sociopaths use this manipulation tactic to lure you into their lies & toxic web. Superficial charm. Many toxic people will convince their victim "I've never felt a connection this intense before", "a love like no other", "I want to be a family", "We're SOULMATES", But the victim doesn't realize these lines are said to all of their prey. The toxic person will continue to future fake & gain trust. The connection will feel intense, fast paced, too good to be true so soon.
The relationship will begin to have numerous highs & lows, encompassing the abuse cycle. Idealize, devalue, discard. This becomes an addiction & will keep the victim stuck in a vicious toxic cycle.
The victim becomes flooded with oxytocin, dopamine, adrenaline & serotonin followed by a crash of cortisol. This combination over & over again has been compared to a heroin addiction & is extremely challenging to break because the victim will continuously be trying to get back to the idealization phase & the love bombing. This is exactly how the trauma bond is formed.
The narcissist lacks self awareness, is likely incapable of self reflection & lacks empathy. Love is a verb. An action. & the victim will soon realize, the narcissist's "love" is not love at all. It was a mask created just for deceit. The narcissist is empty & is attempting to fill a void within themselves that will never be full. Their intention is not pure. It's fabricated. They have an excessive desire for external validation & admiration. One source will never be enough.
You can't "fix" them. You can't change them. Only they can do that. We must work towards feeling whole all on our own. We must love ourselves enough to recognize their red flags & avoid falling prey again.
° They are Not Your Soulmate °
-Jenn Amber
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