Healing from Toxic Relationships

Is it Toxic?

Toxic people will lovebomb and idealize the object of their affection. Highly narcissistic people use this manipulation tactic to lure you into their lies and toxic web. Supperficial charm. Many toxic people will attempt to convince you, "I've never felt a connection this intense before", "a love like no other", "I want to be a family with you." But what is often missed, these lines are said to all of their "love interests". The toxic person will continue to future fake to gain your trust. The connection will feel intense, fast paced, too good to be true so soon. 

The relationship will begin to have numerous highs & lows, encompassing the dependent cycle. Idealize, devalue, discard. This becomes an addiction & will keep you stuck in a vicious toxic cycle. You'll become flooded with oxytocin, dopamine, adrenaline, & serotonin, followed by a crash of cortisol. This combination over & over again has been compared to a heroin addiction. It is extremely challenging to break because you'll continuously be trying to get back to the idealization phase & the lovebombing. This is exactly how the trauma bond is formed. 

 Often times, a highly narcissistic person lacks self awareness, is likely incapable of self reflection & lacks empathy. Love is a verb. An action. Their desired object will soon realize, this toxic person's "love" is not love at all. It was a mask created just for deceit. The narcissist is empty & is attempting to fill a void within themselves that will never be full. Their intention is not pure. It's fabricated. They have an excessive desire for external validation & admiration. One source will never be enough. 

 You can't "fix" them. You can't change them. Only they can do that. We must work towards feeling whole all on our own. We must love ourselves enough to recognize their red flags & avoid falling prey again. 

-Jenn Amber

INSPIRE | EMPOWER | HEAL 

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 🌿🍍🌱My social media is not meant to assist in reaching a professional diagnosis. It is only intended to describe behavior patterns & assist survivors during their healing journey.